Hey all fellow readers. Hahahaha! Probably im greeting myself, as i think only i can endure my horrid long-winded, bad grammar writing skills. Nevertheless writing things out always helped me clear up all those thoughts in my head and put things into perspectives.
Well today i have been thinking about the choices we make when choosing friends. Dont we all? I hope it’s not only me, being biased and having a preference of who i would love to be closer and hang out with. From those people we decided on, we formed deeper bonds and probably develop a kinship sort of bond. When you look at it, finding your best friends is almost like finding a lover. We choose and if it works, yay! What if it doesn’t, there is heartache, disappointment, even regrets for giving so much of ourselves. *sighs* But it takes longer to see when we have chosen wrongly, compared to a lover.
What if the person we regard as our closest buddy actually speak ill things about you, behind your back. What if they are nice to you for years for whatever they can get out of you but isnt really sincere. I can think of so many scenarios. We sometimes dont see these things, do we.
So what do you do when you realized someone you truly care about, respect and will drop anything just to come to their aid does not do the same for you. What do you do? Are you being selfish to expect the same kind of kindness. Is friendship supposed to always be about selfless acts and never expecting anything in return. What if we merely expected the same amount of respect and love in return? What do you do, when you realized your friendship has been only one sided. Or are we supposed to accept our friends for all their flaws even if it means we end up bending over backwards for someone that doesnt appreciate?
Well my decision, is to learn from this recent realization and to come out of a one sided friendship that demands time and energy which leads to heartache or feeling not good enough.
Even if friendship should be selfless and non judging, we still need to pick carefully who we choose to be our dear friends.
It’s good that you actually have a medium to vent (ie., writing…) and I don’t think it’s ever wrong to feel the way you do. I have had my fair share of “friends” who say they are friends but in the end, does not know me for who I am after all. I am cruel in a way as with these characters, I would cut my ties with them without regret. Why live through life with people around you pretending when you need to be yourself? And if they can’t understand that they are with someone who is genuine to oneself, then what’s the point in the whole relationship right? But that’s just me. I cannot stand people who are pretentious and untruthful. Whatever it is, keep your senses about you and do what is most civil for yourself and everyone else. Good luck in your decisions.
OMG Chrissy pooh… well said.. very well said. As we get older We get wiser and those few that truly are good friends end up with us till the end. we are not in school and there is no need to conform to others. Be yourselves and be proud of your individuality.
What happen la girlie???